Top 100 Questions to Ask Your Potential Boyfriend/Girlfriend

Dating is all about having fun, but at some point if you do find yourself with someone that you are thinking of maybe having something a little more long term; there are certain topics you should cover. You will save yourself and them a lot of everything if you talk about these things at some point. Again, when that point is will depend on you and what you think the other person is ready to respond to. You may consider making a list and have them answer the ones they are able to answer. It is interesting also, maybe, the questions they can't or don't want to answer. I think this would be a fun exercise either way! I pulled a list off the net and modified some of the questions. In no particular order:

Okay, I've read the list EVERYONE should read it and answer these questions. Give your life a little more clarity. Fathers, definitely have any guy wanting to date your daughter answer these questions, in writing, signed and dated!
1.Where do you visualize yourself in 5 years, 10 years?
2.Have you had an experience you would say has impacted your life?
3.Have you had to make an important decision that affected your life?
4.Are there people you don't like? Are there people that don't like you?
5.Where do you consider being places for romance?
6.What has been your most embarrassing moment?
7.Are you ever bored?
8.How do you spend time with your family?
9.Do you think it's OK for me to still have feelings for my ex?
10.What is your definition of intimate?
11.What do you think of this expression: Where there was fire, ashes remain.
12.Do you have any future financial plans?
13.What is your biggest goal in life?
14.What is your favorite book?
15.Describe yourself in 3 words.
16.Tell me your 3 weaknesses.
17.Who is your hero, do you have more than one?
18.What is the most important thing in life?
19.What would be your questions to ask on a first date?
20.What are your bad habits?
21.What is your point of view of the world?
22.What would you do to leave an impression on a person on your first date?
23.Is there any real idea of the perfect life?
24.Are you a virgin?
25.What has been your most intimate experience?
26.Who has been your most intimate partner?
27.Do you still have feelings for an ex partner?
28.How long did your most intimate relationship last?
29.Do you regret living those intimate experiences with that person?
30.Have you ever had the feeling you were being watched?
31.What made you go that far?
32.Would you rather follow your heart or your head?
33.What is your opinion about premarital sex?
34.Do you think the past matters in a relationship?
35.How would you react if I told I have had a relationship with a partner of the same gender?
36. Do you believe in God? Why?
37.Do you have any political opinions?
38.Do you have any hobbies?
39.Have you ever experimented with drugs?
40.What do you think is the key to good parenting?
41.Do you like pets in the house?
42.What is the weirdest thing about you?
43.Tell me something about your first kiss.
44.If your parents don't like me for some reason, is that a deal breaker?
45. Have you ever regretted one of your 'romantic encounters'?
46.Do you believe in soul mates?
47.Do you have a criminal record, any contraction of diseases?
48.What is your dream job?
49.Are you willing to stay away from your family if you ever have to for a job?
50.Which living celebrity/author/singer would you like to know?
51.If you could meet a famous dead person, whom would you like to meet?
52.What do you think about unfaithfulness in a relationship?
53.Do you think at first sight is possible?
54.How do you balance personal responsibilities with relationship responsibilities?
55.Who is your favorite fictional character and why?
56.Do you prefer reading books or watching movies?
57. Do you have any regrets in life?
58.What is your ideal vacation?
59.Do you have a favorite movie?
60.If you are allowed to do just one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
61.What is the one thing about you that you take pride in?
62.What is the most courageous thing you have ever done in your life?
63.What is your earliest memory?
64.What do you like most about you?
65.Will you be OK with me hanging out with your ?
66.What would you if you wanted to live your life differently?
67.Have you ever taken dancing classes?
68.Do you think it is important to learn any form of performing arts?
69.What are you looking for in a relationship? In the long term or short term?
70.If you have three wishes, what do would you wish for?
71.Which is the song that makes you ?
72. If you could be a superpower, what would be your superpower?
73.Who is the most influential person for you so far in life?
74.Is there a movie that makes you cry no matter how many times you watch it?
75.If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
76.What is the best advice you ever received?
77.What kind of music you like?
78.If you had a previous relationship, why did your last relationship break?
79.Are you still with that person?
80.What was the best and the worst moment you spent with them?
81.What are the craziest things that you've done together?
82.What will you have accomplished one year from now?
83.If you could go on a road trip where would you go?
84.What is the best part about family life?
85.What is your favorite memory of your family?
86.Tell me 3 good points about me.
87.What are your expectations of me?
88.Did you ever want to kill someone?
89.Have you ever wanted something really bad and then later, not so much?
90.Is there anything I could do to make you think I am bad?
91.What would you do without electricity for 3 days?
92.Do you like to go shopping, not buying, shopping?
93.After I had asked you out for the first time, was there any part of you that wanted to say no?
94.Did anyone help you figure out how to ask me out on a first date?
95.What are your views on open relationships?
96.Would you ever like to adopt children?
97.Is money more important to you or relationships you share with people?
98.What is it that you are passionate about?
99.Do you believe long distance relationships can work?
100.How and when would you know if I am the right one?

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Best Things to say on a First Date

#1 “Thanks For A Nice Time”

Make sure to thank them for the nice time together, even if you didn’t really have a great time. If it wasn’t a good fit, don’t feel like you have to make a connection at the end of the night. It’s okay to just walk away if you’re not interested, just make sure to be polite about it and wish them well.

#2 "When Can We Do This Again?"

If you want to have a second date, there’s no reason to hide it. Be bold and just tell them straight up that you want to see them again. See what they have to say about it and go from there.

#3 "Where To?"

Some of the best dates are ones that aren't completely planned. Have a set of destinations to choose from and then let your date choose where you'll go.

#4 "Life Is Too Short"

No one wants to walk away from a first date feeling like they’re going to cry themselves to sleep. This is not the time to bring up your sob stories about any area of life. Keep it positive! Remember that! Even if the conversation goes to a bad memory, figure out a way to put a positive spin on it.

#5 "I Hope This A Great First Date"

You need to make sure your date knows that you’re confident. Nothing says “insecure” like someone that’s trying to see how they measure up to past relationships and dates so if you want to know how you're doing on this one, tell them you hope it's going well.

#6 "I Really Like You"

Remember when you were a kid and when you liked someone you would tell them? It's the same thing here. No one likes mind games so if you really like your date, let them know.

#7 "Shall We Dance?"

If you’re at a place where dancing is appropriate, you should try it out. It might seem a little silly but being spontaneous is worth it!

#8 “Let Me Get That For You”

If you’re a guy, you should not be making your date open the door or pay for the date. It may seem a little old-fashioned but she will really appreciate it.

#9 "You're So Interesting"

Just like it’s bad to do all the talking, it’s bad to not listen to what is being said. Pay attention to what they’re saying and have something to say in response.

#10 "Do You Go To School?"

This is a safe, simple question to ask during a date. Since college age now lasts from late teens until the grave, they will probably be able to tell you about the school they attend, have attended or wish to attend.

#11 “Do You Like To Cook?”

This is just a backwards way of figuring out where you’d go on your next date. If they to cook, then they may end up wanting to cook for you on one of your future dates. If they don’t, you may be able to surprise them by cooking for them or just finding out their favorite restaurant and food.

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5 Laws Against slaves in 1681- 1683

• Slaves may not leave their masters’ houses without permission.

• Slaves may not own weapons.

• Slaves may not gather in groups larger than four.

• White people and free black people may not entertain slaves in their homes.

• White people and free black people may not sell liquor to slaves

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How To Make Her to Fall In Love

#2 Mr. Mature

Display your maturity to your girl by showing her how serious you are with your career, or how well you handle your finances. Women a confident and clever man.

#3 Show Faith

Women want to feel secure with their man, and once this trust and your faithfulness has been assured, your relationship with one another will reach new heights.

#4 Chill Pill

Don't sweat the small stuff! Show her that you have a cool demeanor when dealing with problems and she'll know that she c

#5 Play Doctor

When your girl's not feeling her best, show her you care by looking after her or simply sending a 'Get Well Soon' note. This will reinforce to her that you can also look after her in times of need.

and always rely on you! 

#6 Meet the Parents

Introducing your girl to your parents shows her not only that you're pretty serious about her, but also that you're proud of her. It also gives her a good indication of how you get along with your family, a quality that most women find very appealing.

#7 The Boys

Like with any relationship, absence makes the heart grow fonder! While spending time with your girl is great for your relationship, so too is spending a little time apart just to remind yourselves how much you being together. So why not hang out with the guys every once in a while

#8 Advice Time

While you may not need (or want) your girl's advice all the time, sometimes it's nice to consult her to make her feel appreciated and wanted. Even if it's just about a small matter, girls helping their d ones out.

#9 Let Loose

You don't have to be Mr. Serious all the time! Girls a guy who they can also relax around and laugh with. So be a little silly from time to time and watch her join in on the clowning around.

#10 Nice & Clean

One of the biggest romance killers is when a partner is messy or just plain lazy when it comes to picking up after themselves. So next time you think about leaving your wet towel on the floor, don't! Every woman s a man who tries to be neat!

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Worst Things to Say on a First Date

#4 Your Intimate Life

Your date doesn't want to know the last time you've slept with someone and they also don't want to hear how many other people you are (or aren't) seeing. Save that for your !

#5 Your Strange Theories

These can be cute and quirky, but maybe more second date material. You don't want to make your date feel awkward if they don't agree, nor do you want to scare them off with your thoughts on the existence or lack thereof of martians.

#6 Your Shrink

You may live in a community where it's popular to see a therapist, and mental health is super important, but you probably wouldn't detail your last dentist appointment and trip to the pharmacy on this date, would you?

#7 Your Friend Drama

Even if you're in a a huge fight with your BFF, try and keep the first date conversation pleasant and cordial. Let your date in on your life and interests, but maybe don't go seeking advice on your current social crisis.

#8 Your Diet

Are you trying to lost three pounds or thirty pounds? No one cares! If you're not confident in your body you're pretty much saying you're not confident enough to be with another person.

#9 Your Salary

It doesn't matter if you're complaining about how little you make or boasting your big raise, money is personal and money talk can make people super uncomfortable.

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Be an Enterprenuer

There are several options left for us as people when it comes to business but nevermind it is much more reasonable to choose enterprenuership

The Great Migration

Across the country and around the world, legions of people are abandoning their dependence on big business and seeking independence through their own enterprises. Every month, about 1 million Americans go through some type of job change or loss, and increasingly they are deciding to start their own businesses.

In a report titled Work, Entrepreneurship and Opportunity in 21st Century America, the U.S. Chamber of Commerce said, “Millions of Americans are embracing entrepreneurship by running their own small businesses, through independent contracting or direct selling.” The report also cited a recent Gallup poll finding that 61 percent of Americans now say they prefer to be their own bosses.

6 Benefits of Entrepreneurship

1. Job Security. Only a generation or two ago, going into business for yourself was considered risky, and the safest route was to get a good job in a large firm. Now, working for a traditional corporation has become the risky option. Working for yourself has become the new job security. “If I’m working for someone else, I’m trading time for money, but I’m not building any equity,” says Duncan MacPherson, co-founder and co-CEO of Pareto Systems, a consulting firm. “As an entrepreneur, I’m the master of my own destiny.

2. Freedom. People the benefits of working for themselves and enjoy the freedom they gain from designing their own prosperity. You get to choose when you work, how you work and with whom you work. Best of all, you don’t have to make the agonizing choice between time for family and time for business.

3. Flexibility. It doesn't matter if you're in a big city or small town. Entrepreneurship is an equal-opportunity employer. E-mail, cheap teleconferencing and a new generation of Web tools make it possible to run a fully competitive business from a home desktop. As a home-based businessperson, you can expand your business to Chicago, San Francisco, Hong Kong and London—and still make the soccer game.

4. Make More Money. There is far greater opportunity to make money by building your own business than by working for someone else’s. “Everyone has heard the phrase, ‘The American Dream.’ I look at it as ‘The American Reality,’ ” says Jeffrey Gitomer, best-selling author of the Little Red Book of Selling and the Little Gold Book of YES! Attitude. “When you’re in business for yourself, you write your own history, you write your own success story, you write your own legacy and most important, you write your own paycheck. Being in business for yourself gives you the opportunity to work your heart out for something you .”

5. A Life of Greater Impact. In the Decipher study, 84 percent of respondents said they would be more passionate about their work if they owned their own business. The No. 1 reason they gave for wanting to work for themselves: “to be more passionate about my work life.”

6. A Second Career. The nation’s 78 million baby boomers are just starting to reach retirement age, yet they’re realizing that they can’t afford to retire. What’s more, they don’t want to. Dr. Mary Furlong, author of Turning Silver into Gold, says, “Boomers are looking for ways to give back. They are taking the reins of their own futures and redefining their lives. They want work that reflects their values and identity; they want to make a difference.” A landmark study by MetLife Foundation and Civic Ventures found that 50 percent of Americans in their 50s and 60s want to do work “that matters.”

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Re: Three Qualities of Good Friends

They also move our world cos no man is an island

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Five Ways to Make New Friends

 
“All well and good, Linda,” you might be thinking, “but just how do you bring people into your life when, as the experts point out, your opportunities for social interactions are shrinking?”
 
Answer: Just cast your net—the wider the better. Here’s how I found new . And I should mention that I’m actually pretty shy, not a natural extrovert, so you can’t use that as an excuse.

1. Take classes. I am the type who looovvvees school. Still, continuing education classes aren’t quite “school” for those who didn’t like the classroom setting growing up. Mostly you sit around with other adults learning something interesting. You don’t have to do homework unless you want to. (But that’s the great thing: You’ll probably want to).
 
If there are any colleges or university extensions near you, do a Google search to see what’s on offer. Community centers, Ys and religious institutions also frequently host discussion groups and courses. Another place with new hip possibilities, and don’t laugh: Weight Watchers meetings. In person. (Yes, those still happen.) Or spend a day with Habitat for Humanity or another volunteer organization. You’ll be exchanging phone numbers by cocktail hour.
 
2. Join Facebook and LinkedIn. I know: You already did. But are you using them to the max? Facebook is where you can find from high school and college with whom you’ve lost touch. Then, though comments, you meet their , whom you soon find yourself conversing. I have become , and now met in real life, the mother of a young woman about my daughter's age whom I met through work and who "friended" me on Facebook.

Twitter is a wonderful place to discover people you’d never meet otherwise (and sometimes probably will never see face-to-face because they live in, like, New Zealand).
 
A great thing that has come out of all these online networks is what Twitter folks call the "Tweet Up," but more generally could be simply dubbed a "get-together." People who live nearby but have so far only met online plan a get-together for coffee or a drink. Many times you’ll find yourself trying to pin many new faces to names. Other times it’s just you and one other person grabbing a cup of coffee. Once you’re face-to-face with an online friend, I’ve found, if you take a shine to each other, you’ll start conversing through email and even take it to the phone. If not too much travel is involved, you’ll find yourself seeing your new regularly.
 
What can be really fun is literally going the extra mile. A whole bunch of people I know online who live in the Southwest are converging on Phoenix next Saturday .… just because. Oh, and when you get social, you’ll also get to know -of-friends, which is more than a Facebook privacy setting. It’s in-real-life people added to your non-virtual social life.

3. Work out at the gym. True, it’s not easy having a conversation while you’re puffing away on the treadmill or swinging those kettle balls. But what I've found is that there are certain people you see time after time, especially if you take classes. First you start smiling at each other, then you say hi. Finally you have a real conversation in the locker room. Next thing you know, you’re grabbing a post-workout coffee with your new gym buddy.
 
4. Rediscover old . Not just online, either. There’s a woman who lives nearby whom I have kinda-sorta known for years. We were both active in our kids’ PTA and spent time together back then. But you know how things go. The kids grew up, and our contacts dwindled to saying “hi” at the supermarket.

Last summer we ran into each other on the block, and she suggested, totally impromptu, that I come and hang in her backyard. We sat around for hours — first bonding over an intense discussion of cleaning products. From there we went on to our kids, our husbands, Broadway shows and, finally, our hopes and dreams. We simply and magically clicked.  
 
Not too long ago I also connected with a woman I knew in college but we had totally lost touch. While talking at a party we discovered we’ve lived almost parallel lives since graduation. We know the same people, live close by, have children the same age. We even have the same make and model piano! To my good fortune, this re-acquaintance has become a good friend.
 
I remember having the thought when I was about 18 that as you got older, the people you met would be more interesting because they'd have so many more stories (i.e., experiences) to share. This indeed has proved true. Also, now that we're more comfortable in our own skins and past the age when we feel the need to impress, bonding comes more naturally. We might have more baggage, but it's easier to unpack.

5. Participate in Meet Ups. Just Google it. All over the world professional groups schedule meetings for casual conversation and networking. Sometimes a member gives a presentation; other times it's just drinks. Either way, discard your cloak-of-shyness and get out there. I know people who have garnered clients and secured job interviews at these kinds of gatherings. I recently found someone who told me that she'd look into some little quirky problems I'm having with my website — for free. Also Google "BNI" (Business Networking International) to find a nearby group (which you'll have to apply to join) or "Professional Networks."

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The Legacies of John F Kennedy

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Letter From King Leopold II to Colonial Missionaries Heading to Africa, 1883

King Leopold II of Belgium

AFRICANGLOBE – Below is a letter written in 1883 by King Leopold II of Belgium to Belgian Christian missionaries being sent to Congo. These  Christian missionaries would eventually become the spearhead of Belgian colonialism only to be followed by Belgian traders and lastly the Belgian army.

Reverends, Fathers and Dear Compatriots:

The task that is given to fulfill is very delicate and requires much tact. You will go certainly to evangelize, but your evangelization must inspire above all Belgium interests. Your principal objective in our mission in the Congo is never to teach the n!ggers to know God, this they know already. They speak and submit to a Mungu, one Nzambi, one Nzakomba, and what else I don’t know.

They know that to kill, to sleep with someone else’s wife, to lie and to insult is bad. Have courage to admit it; you are not going to teach them what they know already. Your essential role is to facilitate the task of administrators and industrials, which means you will go to interpret the gospel in the way it will be the best to protect your interests in that part of the world. For these things, you have to keep watch on dis-interesting our savages from the richness that is plenty [in their underground. To avoid that, they get interested in it, and make you murderous] competition and dream one day to overthrow you.

Your knowledge of the gospel will allow you to find texts ordering, and encouraging your followers to poverty, like “Happier are the poor because they will inherit the heaven” and, “It’s very difficult for the rich to enter the kingdom of God.” You have to detach from them and make them disrespect everything which gives courage to affront us. I make reference to their Mystic System and their war fetish – warfare protection – which they pretend not to want to abandon, and you must do everything in your power to make it disappear.

Your action will be directed essentially to the younger ones, for they won’t revolt when the recommendation of the priest is contradictory to their parent’s teachings. The children have to learn to obey what the missionary recommends, who is the father of their soul. You must singularly insist on their total submission and obedience, avoid developing the spirit in the schools, teach students to read and not to reason.

There, dear patriots, are some of the principles that you must apply. You will find many other books, which will be given to you at the end of this conference. Evangelize the n!ggers so that they stay forever in submission to the White colonialists, so they never revolt against the restraints they are undergoing. Recite every day – “Happy are those who are weeping because the kingdom of God is for them.”

The letter which follows is Courtesy of Dr. Vera Nobles and Dr. Chiedozie Okoro.

Letter from King Leopold II of Belgium to Colonial Missionaries, 1883.

Convert always the Blacks by using the whip. Keep their women in nine months of submission to work freely for us. Force them to pay you in sign of recognition-goats, chicken or eggs-every time you visit their villages. And make sure that n!ggers never become rich. Sing every day that it’s impossible for the rich to enter heaven. Make them pay tax each week at Sunday mass.

Use the money supposed for the poor, to build flourishing business centres. Institute a confessional system, which allows you to be good detectives denouncing any Black that has a different consciousness contrary to that of the decision-maker.

Teach the n!ggers to forget their heroes and to adore only ours. Never present a chair to a Black that comes to visit you. Don’t give him more than one cigarette.

Never invite him for dinner even if he gives you a chicken every time you arrive at his house.

“The above speech which shows the real intention of the Christian missionary journey in Africa was exposed to the world by Mr. Moukouani Muikwani Bukoko, born in the Congo in 1915, and who in 1935 while working in the Congo, bought a second hand Bible from a Belgian priest who forgot the speech in the Bible. – Dr. Chiedozie Okoro

Africans Should Note:

1] that all missionaries carried out, and still carry out, that mandate. We are only lucky to

have found King Leopold’s articulation of the aim of all Christian imperialist missionaries to Africa.

2] Even the African converts who today manage the older churches in Africa (the priests, bishops, Archbishops, Cardinals etc of the Roman and Protestant sects), and especially also those who evangelize Born-Again Christianity, still  serve the same mandate. Which is why they demonize African gods and Anglicize African names, and drop the names of African deities which form part of African names; and still attack and demolish the African shrines that have managed to survive, e.g. Okija.

3] Those Africans who voluntarily converted to Christianity  before the colonial conquest such as Affonso I of the BaKongo in the 15th century probably did not discern the purpose of the brand of Christianity that was supplied to them. Which was probably why they fell easy prey to the missionaries and the White traders and pirates who followed them.

But their Japanese counterparts probably did discern the game, even without access to some version of Leopold’s letter. But even if the Japanese Shoguns did not intuit what Leopold makes explicit, they clearly realized the danger of Japanese converts to Christianity forming a fifth column within Japanese society and state, a fifth column loyal to their co-religionists in Europe.

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